5 Characteristics of a Bad Life Coach

tree-in-a-sunset1There are lots of life coaches out there and it can be difficult to choose the right one. So here are 5 characteristics of a bad life coach to help you weed out the ones that will not do you any good.

  1. Proclaims to be able to work with anybody on any problem – although many claim to be able to help anyone with anything, the reality is that you want a coach who specializes In the area or areas that you would like coaching in. find someone who can really meet your needs.
  2. Makes claims that are to good to be true – beware of life coaches who claim to give you all the answers and guarantee your life will be perfect after meeting with them. You really want to look for someone who is down to earth and honest. You do not want someone who will just give you those quick fixes to make you feel good.
  3. Does not give a trial period – this is pretty simple, if the coach does not offer a free trial, whether over the phone, through email or in person, then you should probably not consider them. They either are hiding something or are to busy. Either way, consider someone who will give you a trial period.
  4. Pressures for commitment and your money – if they are pressuring you for a payment before a trial period or they want you to commit to some sort of deal, they are probably just after your money and they do not really care about helping you. Do not pay anything before you are convinced they will be a good fit for you. Do not give out your credit card information until you are sure they are trustworthy. Although there are lots of great life coaches available, there are some who are just trying to get rich.
  5. Has no credentials, references, or real experience – do some background research on any coach you are considering. Ask other coaches about them and try to find out as much as you can about who they are and how they do things. If you find mixed reviews and problems, that is a good indicator that you should steer clear of them. If you cannot find any information on them, and they offer no references on their website, then they might not want you to know about their past, so that is also a strong indicator that you should avoid them.

And of course remember to be smart about looking for a life coach. If something or someone looks fishy, they probably are. Hopefully with this information in hand you will be able to find a life coach that will meet your needs.

If you would like more information or would like to learn more about life coaching and its importance, please check out the other articles here and also feel free to contact us.

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5 Questions That Help You Succeed

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Success is defined as “the achievement of something desired, planned, or attempted” in the American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, and there are 5 key questions that you must ask yourself if you want to succeed. These questions will help you start thinking of what needs to happen for success to be part of your life.

1. What is God’s will? To truly be successful in life, you must follow God’s will. The desire to accomplish things should come from him. Think about what God has in store for you in life. No one can become successful in life without following the will of God. Do you already know what God wants you to do but you’re hesitant to do so? Are you trying to figure out what God desires of you, but cannot figure it out? If you do not know what God wants you to do, there are plenty of resources for you. There are life coaches that can help guide you. There are books out there for you to read. You can spend time with the Lord, listen to his voice, and try to find out what God has in store for you.  Sometimes we know what God’s will is for us but we run from it like Jonah running from Nineveh.   If you know what God wants for you run in that direction until he shows you something different.  If you are not sure what God’s will is continue to seek him.  Some of the questions below will help you as you seek to find God’s will for you life.

2. What do I love to do? What do you enjoy? What makes you feel a sense of fulfillment and accomplishment after you do it? Always remember what you are drawn to. Remember what you love to do, because you will only burn yourself out if you are stuck doing things that you do not enjoy, even if you are outstanding at it. So identify what you love to do. You may not be able to do exactly what you wish to do, but try to find a way to incorporate what you love into what you already do. For instance, if you love to play basketball but cannot find a job as a professional basketball player, you can train to be a manager or a physical trainer.

3. What am I good at? Usually, what you are good at goes hand in hand with what you love to do. If not, you can always find what you are good at and fit that into what you love to do. It is important to identify what you are good at, because if you do a mediocre job at something, you will not succeed. You have to capitalize on your gifts and talents. It is what makes you stand out from the rest.

4. What more can I do to become better in what I do? There is always room for improvement. Never stop growing. Never stop learning. Never stop improving. This is a huge key for becoming successful and staying successful. Keep the motivation up and running. Figure what you can do to become better, and apply that to your life.

5. What roadblock is keeping me from reaching my highest potential? Are there any barriers? Anything hindering you from reaching your highest potential? First, identify the things that are keeping you from being the best that you can be. Next, figure out how you can eliminate this road block. Better yet, if you can figure out how to make this roadblock enhance your highest potential, it would be even better! If you cannot completely eliminate or use the roadblock to your advantage, find a way to suppress the effects that it has on you.

Remember to ask yourself these five questions if you want to become successful. Once you know what God’s will is, what you love to do, what you are good at that can be implemented into what you love to do, what you can do to improve, what is keeping you from being your best, you are 5 steps closer to being successful. Being successful is not easy, and it’s not just a destiny but a journey.  As you keep these questions in mind, you will see yourself transforming into a successful person and it will be the kind of success first of all that brings honor and glory to the Lord and then brings you joy and fulfillment as well.

What Does A Life Coach Do?

What does a life coach do?

What does a life coach do?

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So maybe you are feeling a little skeptical about the whole ‘life coach’ thing. What does a life coach really do?

Life coaches actually can take on a number of roles, depending on your needs and the type of coach you are working with.  Here are seven typical roles of a life coach.

1.  Sounding Board. Sometimes a life coach will simply be there as a sounding board to help you weed out unimportant or ill advised activities and focus on the best items. Many top CEO’s employ personal life coaches who help them stay on track and focus on their goals and the goals of their company. You might need a life coach to help reorganize your life, or tweak certain aspects of your life.

2.  Ask Questions.  Most Life Coaches are great at getting to the heart of the matter.  Using questions instead of simply giving information they often lead the person being coached to the answers that they really need.

3.  Fresh Perspective. Often you just need someone with different eyes on the situation to give you an outside perspective free from the emotional attachments that you carry in your situations.

4.  Accountability. Many times just knowing that I am going to meet someone who is going to ask me a question is enough to get me off my backside to accomplish whatever it was.  Just today I met with a couple of the guys that I work with and we set out goals that we wanted to accomplish in he next 7 days.  Most of them were personal, some were business but I am sure we will do a better job of meeting those goals this week then we did last week because we know we are going to be asking each other about them at the end of the week.

5.  Life Purpose. If you are wishy washy on your reason for being on the planet the right coach can help you.  My friend and author Stephen Blandino (http://stephenblandino.com) first turned me on to Life Purpose coaching about 5 years ago and I have been enjoying doing it with lots of people over the years since then.

6.  Goal Attainment. Do you have goals out there that you just can’t seem to reach.  Maybe you have been thinking, dreaming and planning about some of them for years but can’t seem to get forward progress.  The right coach can give you the traction you need to make your dreams a reality.

7.  Priority Discernment.  Taking the time to get away can often give you the discernment that you need to figure out what you should be focusing on.  When that doesn’t work a few pertinent questions can often be all that you need to set you in the right direction.

Life coaches are really exactly what their name suggests; people who coach others as they go through the various challenges and distractions of life to help you get the most out of the life that God has given you.

The basic function of a life coach is to help you take the next step in life, to help you make the best use of your time and energy. And when you employ your time and energy effectively and efficiently in the right direction, you are suddenly able to accomplish great things of lasting value.

If you claim Christ as Lord and want a life coach I urge you to look for a life coach that has the same values as you.  It’s not hard as there are many Christian Life Coaches out there.  I have had three formal life/leadership coaches in my life and the results have always been wonderful.  If you have had a life coach please leave a comment and let me know what the experience was like for you.  Also feel free to recommend any great life coaches.

What Should I Look for in a Life Coach?

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Taking a closer look

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If you know that you need a life coach then the next step is to figure out what type of coach will be right for you.  If you are not sure whether or not you need a life coach you can check out the Do I need a Life Coach post?

First, write out and define your needs and goals and what areas you would need coaching in. Do you need help with a business? Do you have personal strengths or weaknesses that you want help with? What areas of your life do you feel you are neglecting to succeed in? Find your top need or goal and use that as a guide when searching for your life coach.  You will probably find spill over between your areas of life that you need coaching in.  That is completely fine.  You want to make sure if you are looking for specific areas of growth that you coach has that knowledge.

Take a quick look online at some of the different life coaches.  Some people do fine with meeting with people online.  Others really prefer meeting face to face.  I myself enjoy both.  I am able to envision the person.  One time someone was asking about a mutual friend and I mentioned that I had just seen her a few months back.  When they asked about it further I realized that her brother had handed me his cell phone and we talked for 45 minutes while the group I was with was shopping.  I was thinking I had met with her in person when in reality it was a phone call.  If you really need to be face to face with someone do a search for Life Coach and your city.

Thankfully many coaches offer a free trial session.  I would recommend trying out at least one session with someone just so you know what the experience will be like.  When it comes down to deciding who to choose you’ll need to depend on your strengths.  Do you generally do best when you make a logical decision?  Then maybe you want to line up the pros and cons of a couple of coaches.  Can you trust your gut to be right most of the time?  Then go with your gut.

Finally, take action.  Choose a coach or at least a trial session with a coach and make an appointment to get started.