5 Characteristics of a Bad Life Coach

tree-in-a-sunset1There are lots of life coaches out there and it can be difficult to choose the right one. So here are 5 characteristics of a bad life coach to help you weed out the ones that will not do you any good.

  1. Proclaims to be able to work with anybody on any problem – although many claim to be able to help anyone with anything, the reality is that you want a coach who specializes In the area or areas that you would like coaching in. find someone who can really meet your needs.
  2. Makes claims that are to good to be true – beware of life coaches who claim to give you all the answers and guarantee your life will be perfect after meeting with them. You really want to look for someone who is down to earth and honest. You do not want someone who will just give you those quick fixes to make you feel good.
  3. Does not give a trial period – this is pretty simple, if the coach does not offer a free trial, whether over the phone, through email or in person, then you should probably not consider them. They either are hiding something or are to busy. Either way, consider someone who will give you a trial period.
  4. Pressures for commitment and your money – if they are pressuring you for a payment before a trial period or they want you to commit to some sort of deal, they are probably just after your money and they do not really care about helping you. Do not pay anything before you are convinced they will be a good fit for you. Do not give out your credit card information until you are sure they are trustworthy. Although there are lots of great life coaches available, there are some who are just trying to get rich.
  5. Has no credentials, references, or real experience – do some background research on any coach you are considering. Ask other coaches about them and try to find out as much as you can about who they are and how they do things. If you find mixed reviews and problems, that is a good indicator that you should steer clear of them. If you cannot find any information on them, and they offer no references on their website, then they might not want you to know about their past, so that is also a strong indicator that you should avoid them.

And of course remember to be smart about looking for a life coach. If something or someone looks fishy, they probably are. Hopefully with this information in hand you will be able to find a life coach that will meet your needs.

If you would like more information or would like to learn more about life coaching and its importance, please check out the other articles here and also feel free to contact us.

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Seven Benefits of Life Coaching

Life is full of twists and turns but a life coach can help you stay on track

Life is full of twists and turns but a life coach can help you stay on track

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In a sports game, where there is a specific amount of time and a clear winner, the coach’s influence is pretty easy to see.  A great coach can take a good team and mold them into champions.  Like wise sometimes you have a team filled with champions that are unable to even make it to the playoffs because they don’t work well as a team.

Benefits from life coaching can be immediate and often last a life time.  Often a coach will offer a valuable suggestion or ask a question in a way that changes your thinking immediately.  A few years ago I was talking to my life coach about my struggle with desiring to work on business and ministry at the same time and how I felt guilty when I would work on business dreams.  He asked me a question that immediately changed my outlook.  “Buddy, who do you think put the desires in you?”  Obviously it was God but immediately it made it alright to have those dreams and desires instead of something that I always had to be fighting.  That has been a lasting change.

Just a few weeks ago I was talking with a life and leadership coach about the possibility of coaching for our entire organization.  I thought it was going to be strictly business but he opened it up as if it was a coaching call so before we got off I asked him, “Do you mind if I ask you a coaching question to help with my leadership.”  He said to go ahead and with a few quick questions I had a game plan to proceed with a meeting that I had schedule that day.

Here are Seven general benefits that you will probably see if you invest in a life coach.

Seven benefits from life coaching:

1. Life Coaching helps you to figure out your real priorities in your life.

2. Life Coaching helps to shorten the time frame to achieving your goals.

3.     Life Coaching helps to give you an outside viewpoint to allow you to see how God has worked in your life and some of the possibilities for the future.

4. Life Coaching facilitates organization and structure in your life, and encourages you to do above and beyond what you would normally do by yourself.

6. Life Coaching provides you with self-assurance, support, certainty, confidence, encouragement, motivation and inspiration depending on your needs and the situation.

7. Life Coaching helps you to walk in the good works that God has prepared in advance for you so that you don’t go through life aimlessly.

Life Coaching is an investment in yourself that will benefit you for the rest of your life. It can have such positive lasting effects that many see it as a necessary activity for any individual who desires to make their life count.

The key difference that a good life coach should make in your life is to help you reach your goals faster and easier than you can on your own.  A good coach will help you with questions, encouragement and short cuts that you might not have known on your own.  A good life coach can be the difference between living an OK life and living the life of a champion.


In What Areas can a Life Coach Help me?

What Arenas in your life need Help?

What Arenas in your life need Help?

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The Arenas of Life

These are just a few of the areas in which people live their lives. You may feel a need to hire a coach to help you set and achieve goals in one or more of life’s “theaters of operations.” Or you may need to learn to balance the conflicting needs and opportunities these areas of life present. Read over this list, and consider whether you are living to your full potential in your life. Note: This list is not meant to be exhaustive; you may need help in other areas as well.


  • Aesthetics: Enjoying the beauty of life, appreciating the finer things.
  • Career: Networking, promotions, goals attainment, beginnings or changing.
  • Discipleship: relationship development, counseling
  • Evangelism: Outreach, attitude, event planning.
  • Family life: Husband/wife relationships, parenting, sibling relationships, in-law relationships.
  • Financial security: Debt reduction or management, budgeting, choosing insurance, preparing for retirement.
  • Friendships: Developing, deepening, enriching, discovering.
  • Health: Hygiene, exercise and fitness, nutrition, physical wellness.
  • Intellect/Education: Pursuing Challenges, remaining active, obtaining expertise and credentials.
  • Leadership: Leadership attributes, responsibility, trust, delegation, new leader development.
  • Posterity: Wills, trusts, passing on of values.
  • Recreation: Fun, sports, entertainment, enjoyment and zest.
  • Service: Charitable giving, volunteering, seeking excellence in professional and community life.
  • Spirituality: Connection, meaning, knowing one’s place in the universe.
  • Sports: physical training, team coaching, management, goal setting.
  • Stress reduction: Time management, relaxation, exercise, burnout prevention.
  • Ultimate Impact: ensuring you are living your life to leave behind a legacy.
  • Wealth: Savings plan, investment. Wellness: Joy, peace, self-esteem, love.

In which of these do you find yourself not reaching your expectations? What do you need help with in order to attain your fullest potential? How can you take steps today to make your life count in the best way possible?

What Does A Life Coach Do?

What does a life coach do?

What does a life coach do?

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So maybe you are feeling a little skeptical about the whole ‘life coach’ thing. What does a life coach really do?

Life coaches actually can take on a number of roles, depending on your needs and the type of coach you are working with.  Here are seven typical roles of a life coach.

1.  Sounding Board. Sometimes a life coach will simply be there as a sounding board to help you weed out unimportant or ill advised activities and focus on the best items. Many top CEO’s employ personal life coaches who help them stay on track and focus on their goals and the goals of their company. You might need a life coach to help reorganize your life, or tweak certain aspects of your life.

2.  Ask Questions.  Most Life Coaches are great at getting to the heart of the matter.  Using questions instead of simply giving information they often lead the person being coached to the answers that they really need.

3.  Fresh Perspective. Often you just need someone with different eyes on the situation to give you an outside perspective free from the emotional attachments that you carry in your situations.

4.  Accountability. Many times just knowing that I am going to meet someone who is going to ask me a question is enough to get me off my backside to accomplish whatever it was.  Just today I met with a couple of the guys that I work with and we set out goals that we wanted to accomplish in he next 7 days.  Most of them were personal, some were business but I am sure we will do a better job of meeting those goals this week then we did last week because we know we are going to be asking each other about them at the end of the week.

5.  Life Purpose. If you are wishy washy on your reason for being on the planet the right coach can help you.  My friend and author Stephen Blandino (http://stephenblandino.com) first turned me on to Life Purpose coaching about 5 years ago and I have been enjoying doing it with lots of people over the years since then.

6.  Goal Attainment. Do you have goals out there that you just can’t seem to reach.  Maybe you have been thinking, dreaming and planning about some of them for years but can’t seem to get forward progress.  The right coach can give you the traction you need to make your dreams a reality.

7.  Priority Discernment.  Taking the time to get away can often give you the discernment that you need to figure out what you should be focusing on.  When that doesn’t work a few pertinent questions can often be all that you need to set you in the right direction.

Life coaches are really exactly what their name suggests; people who coach others as they go through the various challenges and distractions of life to help you get the most out of the life that God has given you.

The basic function of a life coach is to help you take the next step in life, to help you make the best use of your time and energy. And when you employ your time and energy effectively and efficiently in the right direction, you are suddenly able to accomplish great things of lasting value.

If you claim Christ as Lord and want a life coach I urge you to look for a life coach that has the same values as you.  It’s not hard as there are many Christian Life Coaches out there.  I have had three formal life/leadership coaches in my life and the results have always been wonderful.  If you have had a life coach please leave a comment and let me know what the experience was like for you.  Also feel free to recommend any great life coaches.

What Should I Look for in a Life Coach?

Taking a closer look

Taking a closer look

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If you know that you need a life coach then the next step is to figure out what type of coach will be right for you.  If you are not sure whether or not you need a life coach you can check out the Do I need a Life Coach post?

First, write out and define your needs and goals and what areas you would need coaching in. Do you need help with a business? Do you have personal strengths or weaknesses that you want help with? What areas of your life do you feel you are neglecting to succeed in? Find your top need or goal and use that as a guide when searching for your life coach.  You will probably find spill over between your areas of life that you need coaching in.  That is completely fine.  You want to make sure if you are looking for specific areas of growth that you coach has that knowledge.

Take a quick look online at some of the different life coaches.  Some people do fine with meeting with people online.  Others really prefer meeting face to face.  I myself enjoy both.  I am able to envision the person.  One time someone was asking about a mutual friend and I mentioned that I had just seen her a few months back.  When they asked about it further I realized that her brother had handed me his cell phone and we talked for 45 minutes while the group I was with was shopping.  I was thinking I had met with her in person when in reality it was a phone call.  If you really need to be face to face with someone do a search for Life Coach and your city.

Thankfully many coaches offer a free trial session.  I would recommend trying out at least one session with someone just so you know what the experience will be like.  When it comes down to deciding who to choose you’ll need to depend on your strengths.  Do you generally do best when you make a logical decision?  Then maybe you want to line up the pros and cons of a couple of coaches.  Can you trust your gut to be right most of the time?  Then go with your gut.

Finally, take action.  Choose a coach or at least a trial session with a coach and make an appointment to get started.


Do I Need a Life Coach?

Coaching soccer

Coaching soccer

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At various points in our lives we all face distractions, we all experience disappointments and we all get lost doing meaningless things. At these times it is sometimes necessary, even imperative, to get the help of someone to coach you back to where you want to be. Maybe you are doing OK but you want to do better

Have you been getting swamped with ‘good’ things and while missing out on truly great things? Do you feel like you are not meeting your goals, or are wasting your life on unimportant goals and activities?

Take a minute and ask yourself this, Am I accomplishing anything of lasting value? If you just ignore these feelings of inadequacy and lack of accomplishment, you might start facing more serious problems like burnout and disappointment with life.

Getting the guidance, support and suggestions of a Life Coach might be just what you need if you feel like your life is out of balance. It often helps to get someone who can objectively look at all the things one might be doing and suggest certain things to do more or less of.

Many people ask what the difference is between a Life Coach and a counselor is. A simple way to look at is
<– Counselor | Coach –> A counselor helps you look back and fix the problems from your past. A coach helps you to figure out where you want to be and how to get there. The right coach can help you transform your life and making it a truly transformational experience.

If you feel like you simply aren’t accomplishing anything of lasting value, it might be time to take a step towards your goals by looking into getting a life coach who will help steer you in the right direction. Maybe you are in beginning a career transition and you want to make sure you are making the right decision. All of these and more are great reasons to find a life coach.

If you are eager to move forward and accomplish more and more of the right things in life a coach might be just what you are looking for to help you get more out of life.