5 Characteristics of a Bad Life Coach

tree-in-a-sunset1There are lots of life coaches out there and it can be difficult to choose the right one. So here are 5 characteristics of a bad life coach to help you weed out the ones that will not do you any good.

  1. Proclaims to be able to work with anybody on any problem – although many claim to be able to help anyone with anything, the reality is that you want a coach who specializes In the area or areas that you would like coaching in. find someone who can really meet your needs.
  2. Makes claims that are to good to be true – beware of life coaches who claim to give you all the answers and guarantee your life will be perfect after meeting with them. You really want to look for someone who is down to earth and honest. You do not want someone who will just give you those quick fixes to make you feel good.
  3. Does not give a trial period – this is pretty simple, if the coach does not offer a free trial, whether over the phone, through email or in person, then you should probably not consider them. They either are hiding something or are to busy. Either way, consider someone who will give you a trial period.
  4. Pressures for commitment and your money – if they are pressuring you for a payment before a trial period or they want you to commit to some sort of deal, they are probably just after your money and they do not really care about helping you. Do not pay anything before you are convinced they will be a good fit for you. Do not give out your credit card information until you are sure they are trustworthy. Although there are lots of great life coaches available, there are some who are just trying to get rich.
  5. Has no credentials, references, or real experience – do some background research on any coach you are considering. Ask other coaches about them and try to find out as much as you can about who they are and how they do things. If you find mixed reviews and problems, that is a good indicator that you should steer clear of them. If you cannot find any information on them, and they offer no references on their website, then they might not want you to know about their past, so that is also a strong indicator that you should avoid them.

And of course remember to be smart about looking for a life coach. If something or someone looks fishy, they probably are. Hopefully with this information in hand you will be able to find a life coach that will meet your needs.

If you would like more information or would like to learn more about life coaching and its importance, please check out the other articles here and also feel free to contact us.

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5 Tricks to Overcoming Procrastination

Are you behind on things or putting important tasks off until the last minute? Thenn take a look at these tricks.

Are you behind on things or putting important tasks off until the last minute? Thentake a look at these tricks!

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We know we should not do it but we do anyway. What is it? Procrastination. How often have you had something you needed to do and then you just decided to put if off for a little while or you got caught up doing other ‘important things’.

It is just so easy to put something off until tomorrow. We often do it for a variety of reason, such as anxiety, busyness, boredom, or dislike for the task. But whatever the reason, it needs to stop, which is why we have 5 tricks to help you stop procrastinating today.  You can read about them tomorrow if you like.  Just kidding.  You need to read them now or you would not be on this page.  :-)
  • Take on only what you can accomplish – If you have so much to do that you cannot get any of it done on time then cut back and focus on a few tasks that you can do on time. A key part to fixing procrastination is simply managing your time and energy well. Look at all the activities and tasks you have, and then try to see if you can actually accomplish them in the amount of time you have. if you need to reorganize your life, then do it. Sometimes it takes some change in other areas before you will see change in this area.
  • Structure your time – set aside time for doing the things that usually distract you. If you like to take a break from accomplishing things by visiting your favorite websites plan a time to do that or use it as a reward after you have accomplished something important.
  • Tackle the hardest thing first.  Often we put off the hardest task and do things that are less difficult in their place.  Many times we never get around tot he really important things.  If you tackle the important things first the rest of the day will go much easier.  I have quit responding to my email in the morning and have started leaving it until the afternoon.  I’ll check to make sure there are no emergency emails but then I get started tackling projects and answer email later in the day when I have less project time.
  • Don’t get distracted – when you set out to do something, then keep doing it until you finish. Don’t let friends or other things distract you. Be sure that you set aside enough time to do the task in the first place.
  • Just do it – get your tasks done when you think about them, don’t but it off. If you think about another task while you are in the middle of one, then write it down and continue on your current task.
If you are stuck on what to focus on take a breather and ask God for wisdom both on what to work on and how to go about it.
Procrastination can be a difficult habit to break but you’ll be on you way if you follow these tips.  Not only will you find you are accomplishing more but your energy will increase and you’ll feel better about life.

Refusing to Lead

What are your thoughts on refusing to lead? Peter Rollins make some good points in his video. I think the heart of wisdom and learning to hear the voice of God helps us to know when we should counsel, push back, comfort, sit in silence etc when talking to others.

After I created this post I just got an email from our director with the following from Dave Browning along the same subject.

A pastor was telling me about a new group that was forming in his Worship Center. The group was going to be led by Chris (not his real name), who is a former pot-smoker. Some of those coming to the group are going to be people from his old pot circle. The pastor said to me, “There’s a part of me that wants to be at these group meetings.” He was concerned that he these young adults might slip into their old behaviors if he wasn’t present. I told him that I understood his concern but that he should not give into the temptation to baby sit.

Carefully consider the implications to your long-term ministry if you “need to be there” to keep bad things from happening:

First, if you need to be there, you are not displaying a very high level of trust in God’s spirit. Before Jesus left earth he told us that he would send his spirit “to be with us forever” and “to guide us into all truth.” We need to take God up on his promise. There needs to only be one Holy Spirit. You are not it.

Second, if you need to be there, you are not displaying a very high level of trust in your people. You are saying, “I can’t trust you to be outside my sight.” Do you want them to lead from inner integrity, or outward compulsion?

Third, if you need to be there, after awhile your volunteer leader will realize that he doesn’t need to be there. This is the same challenge foreign missionaries face. When the chips are down, the natives all look at the “white face” in the room. As a pastor your authority and influence will eclipse that of the volunteer. Get out of his way so he can execute his ministry.

Fourth, if you need to be there, you are limiting the scope of your ministry to the places where and times when you can be there. Do you really want to do that? I didn’t think so. Most churches in America or less than 75 people, and one of the reasons is that is the number of people that a person can pastor directly. Greater effectiveness is found when a pastor spends more time working on the ministry than in the ministry.

This does not mean that this pastor should not spend time with Chris, mentoring him and supporting him in his ministry. In fact, I would say that there is not a more important meeting on that pastor’s calendar. Equipping Chris to do the work of the ministry is precisely what God has called that pastor to do. Just be careful to not cross the line into co-dependency. As a father in the faith you have to let your children go. You have to trust God to keep them from falling.

When you think about it, what was really impressive about the serial-planting ministries of the Apostle Paul or John Wesley is not how may places they went, but how many places they left.

Dave Browning

Be on the Lookout

It has long been said that if you really want to learn something you should teach it. While that may or may not work for you do look for opportunities to pass on what you know and it will definitely be cemented in your own life.

God has used this in my own life this past year. I have had the opportunity to be teaching and training some this year on discipleship, student led ministry etc while at the same time kind of taking a break in my own life from the same things that I was teaching about. In some ways I think it was good to have a few months of a break. I think the idea of taking a sabatical is a great one and that our companies, ministries and schools would be much better served if those working in them were able to take sabaticals. At the same time while there are seasons for rest I think I have gone from resting to coasting.

For a while I felt OK about not diving into to different things and relationships and being involved in making disciples but then after about four months I began to feel like I needed to do one of two things.

1. Stop teaching about things from God’s word that I wasn’t living out.

2. Change my life to match up with the things that I was teaching about.

I decided number two was a better option and I am praying about ways to be used of God in the community that we are in now and we have been making changes in our lives over the past couple of weeks to line up with what we feel God would have us to be involved in.

This past week I was frustrated in dealing with a design contrator that had been really slow and not delivering the quality of product that I was expecting. On Thursday morning while trying to upload a computer template that was not delivered complete I started to get frustrated. In the middle of my email of telling him I wanted the project completed that day and with professional quality I remembered that I had been teaching the night before about asking God for wisdom in situations that were beyond us. I quit typing my email and asked God to give me wisdom to correct the errors in the work that I had been given and it turned out to be a pretty simple project. In the end most of what I was given was professional and it was completed late that day.

All that to say if you want to have God’s word become real in your life look for opportunities to teach it to others.