In What Areas can a Life Coach Help me?

What Arenas in your life need Help?

What Arenas in your life need Help?

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The Arenas of Life

These are just a few of the areas in which people live their lives. You may feel a need to hire a coach to help you set and achieve goals in one or more of life’s “theaters of operations.” Or you may need to learn to balance the conflicting needs and opportunities these areas of life present. Read over this list, and consider whether you are living to your full potential in your life. Note: This list is not meant to be exhaustive; you may need help in other areas as well.

  • Aesthetics: Enjoying the beauty of life, appreciating the finer things.
  • Career: Networking, promotions, goals attainment, beginnings or changing.
  • Discipleship: relationship development, counseling
  • Evangelism: Outreach, attitude, event planning.
  • Family life: Husband/wife relationships, parenting, sibling relationships, in-law relationships.
  • Financial security: Debt reduction or management, budgeting, choosing insurance, preparing for retirement.
  • Friendships: Developing, deepening, enriching, discovering.
  • Health: Hygiene, exercise and fitness, nutrition, physical wellness.
  • Intellect/Education: Pursuing Challenges, remaining active, obtaining expertise and credentials.
  • Leadership: Leadership attributes, responsibility, trust, delegation, new leader development.
  • Posterity: Wills, trusts, passing on of values.
  • Recreation: Fun, sports, entertainment, enjoyment and zest.
  • Service: Charitable giving, volunteering, seeking excellence in professional and community life.
  • Spirituality: Connection, meaning, knowing one’s place in the universe.
  • Sports: physical training, team coaching, management, goal setting.
  • Stress reduction: Time management, relaxation, exercise, burnout prevention.
  • Ultimate Impact: ensuring you are living your life to leave behind a legacy.
  • Wealth: Savings plan, investment. Wellness: Joy, peace, self-esteem, love.

In which of these do you find yourself not reaching your expectations? What do you need help with in order to attain your fullest potential? How can you take steps today to make your life count in the best way possible?

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What Does A Life Coach Do?

What does a life coach do?

What does a life coach do?

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So maybe you are feeling a little skeptical about the whole ‘life coach’ thing. What does a life coach really do?

Life coaches actually can take on a number of roles, depending on your needs and the type of coach you are working with.  Here are seven typical roles of a life coach.

1.  Sounding Board. Sometimes a life coach will simply be there as a sounding board to help you weed out unimportant or ill advised activities and focus on the best items. Many top CEO’s employ personal life coaches who help them stay on track and focus on their goals and the goals of their company. You might need a life coach to help reorganize your life, or tweak certain aspects of your life.

2.  Ask Questions.  Most Life Coaches are great at getting to the heart of the matter.  Using questions instead of simply giving information they often lead the person being coached to the answers that they really need.

3.  Fresh Perspective. Often you just need someone with different eyes on the situation to give you an outside perspective free from the emotional attachments that you carry in your situations.

4.  Accountability. Many times just knowing that I am going to meet someone who is going to ask me a question is enough to get me off my backside to accomplish whatever it was.  Just today I met with a couple of the guys that I work with and we set out goals that we wanted to accomplish in he next 7 days.  Most of them were personal, some were business but I am sure we will do a better job of meeting those goals this week then we did last week because we know we are going to be asking each other about them at the end of the week.

5.  Life Purpose. If you are wishy washy on your reason for being on the planet the right coach can help you.  My friend and author Stephen Blandino ( first turned me on to Life Purpose coaching about 5 years ago and I have been enjoying doing it with lots of people over the years since then.

6.  Goal Attainment. Do you have goals out there that you just can’t seem to reach.  Maybe you have been thinking, dreaming and planning about some of them for years but can’t seem to get forward progress.  The right coach can give you the traction you need to make your dreams a reality.

7.  Priority Discernment.  Taking the time to get away can often give you the discernment that you need to figure out what you should be focusing on.  When that doesn’t work a few pertinent questions can often be all that you need to set you in the right direction.

Life coaches are really exactly what their name suggests; people who coach others as they go through the various challenges and distractions of life to help you get the most out of the life that God has given you.

The basic function of a life coach is to help you take the next step in life, to help you make the best use of your time and energy. And when you employ your time and energy effectively and efficiently in the right direction, you are suddenly able to accomplish great things of lasting value.

If you claim Christ as Lord and want a life coach I urge you to look for a life coach that has the same values as you.  It’s not hard as there are many Christian Life Coaches out there.  I have had three formal life/leadership coaches in my life and the results have always been wonderful.  If you have had a life coach please leave a comment and let me know what the experience was like for you.  Also feel free to recommend any great life coaches.

What Should I Look for in a Life Coach?

Taking a closer look

Taking a closer look

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If you know that you need a life coach then the next step is to figure out what type of coach will be right for you.  If you are not sure whether or not you need a life coach you can check out the Do I need a Life Coach post?

First, write out and define your needs and goals and what areas you would need coaching in. Do you need help with a business? Do you have personal strengths or weaknesses that you want help with? What areas of your life do you feel you are neglecting to succeed in? Find your top need or goal and use that as a guide when searching for your life coach.  You will probably find spill over between your areas of life that you need coaching in.  That is completely fine.  You want to make sure if you are looking for specific areas of growth that you coach has that knowledge.

Take a quick look online at some of the different life coaches.  Some people do fine with meeting with people online.  Others really prefer meeting face to face.  I myself enjoy both.  I am able to envision the person.  One time someone was asking about a mutual friend and I mentioned that I had just seen her a few months back.  When they asked about it further I realized that her brother had handed me his cell phone and we talked for 45 minutes while the group I was with was shopping.  I was thinking I had met with her in person when in reality it was a phone call.  If you really need to be face to face with someone do a search for Life Coach and your city.

Thankfully many coaches offer a free trial session.  I would recommend trying out at least one session with someone just so you know what the experience will be like.  When it comes down to deciding who to choose you’ll need to depend on your strengths.  Do you generally do best when you make a logical decision?  Then maybe you want to line up the pros and cons of a couple of coaches.  Can you trust your gut to be right most of the time?  Then go with your gut.

Finally, take action.  Choose a coach or at least a trial session with a coach and make an appointment to get started.

Do I Need a Life Coach?

Coaching soccer

Coaching soccer

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At various points in our lives we all face distractions, we all experience disappointments and we all get lost doing meaningless things. At these times it is sometimes necessary, even imperative, to get the help of someone to coach you back to where you want to be. Maybe you are doing OK but you want to do better

Have you been getting swamped with ‘good’ things and while missing out on truly great things? Do you feel like you are not meeting your goals, or are wasting your life on unimportant goals and activities?

Take a minute and ask yourself this, Am I accomplishing anything of lasting value? If you just ignore these feelings of inadequacy and lack of accomplishment, you might start facing more serious problems like burnout and disappointment with life.

Getting the guidance, support and suggestions of a Life Coach might be just what you need if you feel like your life is out of balance. It often helps to get someone who can objectively look at all the things one might be doing and suggest certain things to do more or less of.

Many people ask what the difference is between a Life Coach and a counselor is. A simple way to look at is
<– Counselor | Coach –> A counselor helps you look back and fix the problems from your past. A coach helps you to figure out where you want to be and how to get there. The right coach can help you transform your life and making it a truly transformational experience.

If you feel like you simply aren’t accomplishing anything of lasting value, it might be time to take a step towards your goals by looking into getting a life coach who will help steer you in the right direction. Maybe you are in beginning a career transition and you want to make sure you are making the right decision. All of these and more are great reasons to find a life coach.

If you are eager to move forward and accomplish more and more of the right things in life a coach might be just what you are looking for to help you get more out of life.

The U.S. Army’s 11 Leadership Principles

The Statue of Liberty - Standing as a Leader

The Statue of Liberty - Standing as a Leader

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Leadership in the military is vital for completing the mission. The military has become known for its development of great leaders. Many presidents were also military men, and a large quantity of other influential people began by serving in the US Military. The US Army put together 11 principles for its leaders to follow. These are valuable principles that every leader, both military and civilian, can learn from. Here are the 11 US Army Leadership Principles and their application to civilian leadership.

1. Be tactically and technically proficient – In whatever business or profession you are in, aim to be the best, or at least have a good understanding of it. If that means doing a little studying, so be it, as long as you set an example of proficiency.

2. Know yourself and seek self-improvement – know your capabilities, but don’t stop there, try to improve on your skills and strengths. Learning is a lifelong task that you should continue no matter what you are doing.

3. Know your soldiers and look out for their welfare – this applies to anyone under you. Take time to get to know them and look out for their health and wellbeing. They will notice you genuinely care about them and probably perform better.

4. Keep your soldiers informed – tell those you follow you what your plans are, accept their insight and suggestions, make them apart of the planning. When someone has a role in planning, they take greater responsibility in its execution. Don’t keep people in the dark about things.

5. Set the example – in everything you do you must do it well and set a good example. You never know what kind of an effect you might have on those under you and one small poor decision might mean the loss of their respect and desire to follow you.

6. Ensure the task is understood, supervised and accomplished – make sure you give clear instructions, ask for feedback on what your followers think you said. Have patience if they don’t quite get what you are trying to communicate. And, of course, supervise to be sure a task is completed, but do it in such a way so that you aren’t hovering above people ready to jump on them when they make a mistake.

7. Train your soldiers as a team – create community and teamwork. Help everyone work together. Take time to do team building exercises. When a group of people work as a team, they work much more quickly, and effectively.

8. Make sound and timely decisions – this one is up to you. You need to make decisions and stick with them. Don’t shy away from making decisions, but look at the options and then make the best choice.

9. Develop a sense of responsibility in your subordinates – part of this is simply sharing responsibility with those under you. Delegate certain jobs and small tasks. Let others oversee certain activities. In this way, you will be training up new leaders.

10. Employ your unit in accordance with its capabilities – don’t overstretch or overuse those who are following you. Everyone has limitations, find what the limitations of your followers are, and then try to avoid exceeding them.

11. Seek responsibility and take responsibility for your actions – ultimately you are responsible. If something good happens, you are responsible, and if something bad happens, you are also responsible. Taking responsibility for things is a key trait of a leader, and fatal flaw if neglected. Be sure to always take responsibility for not only your actions, but also those of anyone under you.

These are powerful principles that could radically change the way you lead. Take some time to evaluate your own leadership and compare to see where you are doing well, and where you are lacking. The object of all of this is to be the best leader you can be. Now go and be a leader.

7 Traits of a Poor Leader

Many have written on what it takes to be a leader, on what qualities a leader must have, but what are the qualities of a poor leader? How can you tell when you or someone else is a shoddy leader? There are a number of key qualities and characteristics that define substandard leadership. Here are the 7 main qualities of a poor leader.

The first, and possibly the most debilitating characteristic of a poor leader is a poor relationship with God. A healthy relationship with God is like the first building block in a large building. Without it, the entire building will eventually become unstable and fall in a great heap.

Overtly prideful leaders will begin to overlook things because they begin to believe that they cannot fail, that they are perfect and all others need to change. They become obstinate and won’t accept council or suggestions.

Self-interested leaders only care about themselves. They will push difficult or monotonous tasks on to others and try to avoid anything that they don’t want to do. They are selfish and seek only to please themselves. They might also see everyone else as insignificant.

Obsessively concerned with every detail; Leaders with this quality will waste time on trivial matters and confuse and frustrate people under them by trying to make everything just like how they want it. They micro manage and concern themselves with every little detail. They blow small inconsequential issues out of proportion and don’t understand how to delegate.

Poor communication skills and little feedback is another characteristic. Leaders with this flaw will never let you know if you are doing well, only if you are performing below their standard. When you do perform excellently, these leaders will only tell you that you accomplished what was expected of you. They may confuse people by setting different goals and rules at various times or by being unclear about certain issues. These leaders often will rely on other negative attributes to help them lead and may even focus on other people’s weaknesses to help make them feel better.

A Leader who creates strict rules and regulations and proceeds to expect everyone else to follow them while not abiding by the rules themselves has the next serious flaw. These leaders make big deals out of small infractions and punish people senselessly. They use the numerous rules to substitute for their lack of leadership experience or skills. They set a poor example for the people following them and may even choose favorites who are exempt from the rules.

Anger, deceit, and poor moral character are the final qualities of a bad leader. These leaders will use any method to succeed, even if it means breaking the rules, or hurting others. They will also rely on anger to coerce people into following. Their poor character will show, although they probably will try to cover it up with lies. This may be the worst trait a leader can have.

Leaders who lack leadership skills will often rely on these negative attributes to help them lead people. They will substitute anger in for patience, micromanagement in for delegation, and so on. These people are not leaders at all; they are simply people telling others what to do and using authority given them to enforce it. Don’t be a bad leader, take what you have learned from here and try to lead well.

Now go, and don’t lead like this.

3 Characteristics of a Real Leader

Leadership: The act of Leading

Leadership: The act of Leading

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Leaders hold the most important roles in our society. They act as an example for others, they tell others what to do, and they define how we should live our lives. With such great responsibility it becomes imperative for a leader to be not just a leader, but a great leader. There are 3 characteristics every leader can have, and must have to be a great leader. They are faith, hope, and love.

A leader who has faith believes in themselves, in others, and most importantly, in God.

They believe in themselves by challenging themselves and taking on difficult, but possible tasks to complete. Leaders with this characteristic won’t shy away from jobs or responsibility. They will do what they need to do and take the blame if they make a mistake.

A leader with faith believes in the workers and people under them. They delegate and give responsibility to others and allow others to offer input. They don’t micromanage others and they don’t create countless rules to follow. They are flexible, yet require results from people under them.

Most importantly, a leader must have faith in God. Faith that God will support them, provide for them, be the source of authority, and supplier of justice. God is the one from whom all authority is given. Keeping this in mind a leader will also stay humble. You could say that God is the ultimate leader, thus, putting for faith in Him and following his commands seems only reasonable and even logical. Wouldn’t you want to put your faith in the ‘best’ leader?

Hope is the second characteristic. Hope for the future, forward thinking, vision, and goal focused are all aspects of hope. A leader should be thinking about what their plan is for tomorrow; what their long-term goals are for both themselves and those following them. Their hope should create passion for what they do and desire to do it well. The hope that a leader has should also be spread to their followers, giving them an idea of what is to come and what the leader’s plans are for the future.

Finally, love is the last and greatest characteristic. A leader must have a love for their work, their family, their followers, and for God.

Naturally a leader who loves to lead will certainly lead better than one who doesn’t. Their love for what they do will be infective in the way it will cause those around them to work a little harder and perform a bit better. A leader’s love for what they do is vital to preventing failure and burnout.

Love for their family will be like a beacon proclaiming their true character for all to see. If a leader neglects or places their family behind other things then people will take note and recognize the leader’s lack of care for those closest to them. Yet when a leader does love their family first then many other aspects of their life will seamlessly fall in place. Those under them will respect their leader and readily follow their commands.

A leader’s love for their followers is directly related to their love for their own family. Often, a leader’s family is their first followers and when a leader is placed in charge of others, their love for their family will also change into a loving and caring attitude towards all who follow them. A leader’s love for their followers will inspire them to achieve and complete things to the best of their ability. When a leader loves his followers he will look out for their interests and, when possible, place them before his own interests. This does not mean that a leader should compromise on goals and objectives, but merely that they should take an interest in the lives of those the lead.

Lastly, a leader must love God with all their heart, soul and mind. There is much that could be said about loving God, but all that will be said here is that God is the giver of all authority, so we must follow God, and follow His commands, and the greatest of his commands is “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind” (Mat. 22:37b, NIV).

How can you improve as a leader? How can you start implementing these characteristics in your own life? The time is now, don’t wait until tomorrow, change today, and see the results forever.

Prevent Burnout in Your Life Today

Prevent Burnout in Your Life

Prevent Burnout in Your Life

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The Best Remedy is Prevention

So maybe you have just experienced some burnout or stress in your life and you realize you don’t want it to happen again. Or, maybe you have never experienced burnout, but you don’t intend on trying it. In any event, you are now trying to figure out how you can avoid burnout in the future. Well good news, there are ways to prevent burnout. All it takes is some dedication and discipline to observe 5 easy guidelines.

These are the 5 simple guidelines to follow to prevent burnout in your life.

The first, and most important guideline to preventing burnout is to rely on God for strength, wisdom, support, and help in your ministry. Many people get burned out simply because they try to do everything on their own. They think they can handle everything, but they can’t, and when it all comes crashing down, they feel depressed and frustrated with life. The key is to rely on God, because we cannot do everything on our own and God is waiting, even desiring for us to turn to Him and let Him take control of our lives. What areas of your life do you feel you need to rely on God more? Do you trust that God has a plan for you, even though it probably isn’t the same as the one you have in your head? Do you need to ask God to show you areas in your life that you should trust God about? Take a minute and think about these questions.

Secondly, start your day, every day, by reading the Bible and praying alone. Make it one of the first things you do when you wake up. This might be hard to do at first but it will eventually become a habit and the benefits go far beyond simply preventing burnout.

The third guideline is to make healthy living a priority. Spend time exercising a few times a week at least, and make sure you are eating healthy. Take care of you physical body and you will feel much better for it. Additionally, you will probably look better for it as well.

Fourth, set aside personal time for doing something you enjoy each day. This could be almost anything, such as taking a short walk, reading part of a book, making a tasty meal for yourself, hiking outdoors, or any number of things that make you happy and feel recharged. Every now and then try something new and exciting. This is a good time for you to simply enjoy life and the creation God made.

Finally, know when to say No. Decide what things you will take on, and what things you will let others do. Don’t get swamped in ‘good’ things and miss out on the great things. If you are starting to turn in poor performances on certain tasks because you were busy with other things, it might be time to consider reorganizing your life and focusing on a few valuable things.

Now you are ready to prevent and avoid burnout in your life. But remember, these are not guidelines that you follow only when you start to get burned out. No, these should be implemented today, and should become a regular part of your routine day. If you miss certain parts every now and then, it’s OK, but try to form these guidelines into habits, which will make burnout prevention a habit in your life, and that leads to much more productive living.

I hope that these articles were helpful to you and that you can take something from them. We will soon be offering them all together as a PDF. Be sure to check that out when we get it up.

God Bless and stay un-stressed

What You Should Know About Living in Your Strengths

Living in your strengths is probably the best way to avoid burnout and not living in your strengths is probably the best way to get burned out. Thus, it is very important to understand what it is that God has created you for – because he has created you for a special purpose.

Living in Your Strengths Can Help you Become a Strong Wave

Living in Your Strengths Can Help you Become a Strong Wave

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We each have certain things we are good at. I am sure you can name a few things that you enjoy doing and are really good at. Maybe you know a lot about a computer, or its easy for you to work on cars, or maybe you are good at sports, no matter what it is, we each have specific strengths. God created us with certain talents and abilities for us to use to glorify Him. If you aren’t living your strengths, It’s time to hit the brakes and pay close attention to the rest of this because this could just save you a lot of time, stress, and wasted energy.

Not using your strengths is simply ridiculous. Check out this example to help you understand, if you don’t already. If you had the option to play baseball or football and you were extremely good at say, baseball but you knew next to nothing about football. Would you really try to go play football? No, of course not! You would go play baseball because that is what you are good at, that is your strong sport. Its the same way with your strengths. If you have certain strengths, you should embrace and use them. Don’t try to ignore them and work on a weakness.

But, you might say, How can I live my strengths if I don’t really know them? That’s actually very easy, there are many tests that will show what kinds of strengths you have. These tests are rather accurate and many are free online. Simply take a minute and search for strengths tests and then find a good one to take. It is such a valuable resource to know what your strengths are, and, it’s quite interesting and even surprising. Be sure to come back and retake these tests every so often to see how you are changing, because there might be small changes over time based on your job or primary activities.

Once you know what your strengths are, take some time to think about how you are using them, maybe even without knowing it, and how you can start using them more.

If you are having a tough time thinking about where you have already been using your strengths, think about activities that you simply love and you often lose track of time while doing. When you use your strengths you will enjoy using them. You will experience success and contentment from using your strengths.

Living in your strengths has incredible benefits with reducing stress caused by trying, and failing at being successful while using a weakness. Plus, it will reduce the chance or getting burned out. And, it will even help you be energetic and excited about life.

God made us with a purpose, and the ability to complete the things he has for us in life. He gave you strengths to use, now start using them.

Live life to the fullest, live in your strengths!

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